Sunday, April 26, 2015

Love. Lust. Desire. Boredom. And then there was a straw too.

Friday night - the beginning of a reunion weekend with my childhood friend. Post a long day at work, crazy traffic on my way back, a work call with boss as soon as I got home, and a few glasses of red wine at home, the options were rather obvious - delicious cocktails at a close by bar or an enticing cocktail at Juhu PVR. We opted for the latter one, the one with a straw.

For all those that know Roopa and me, will know us for our love for Bollywood and the high we get from films is never really the same from any other concoction. Sex on the beach. Screw driver. Tequila sunrise. Cocktails are almost always welcome but this time, we opted for the heady mix of Margharita with a Straw.

The film started in a fairly promising manner. Kalki and Revathi's sheer screen presence in the first scene set the expectation for the film. Kalki's acting in this film has put her on a pedestal that I doubt anyone else can even hope to achieve. Through the entire film, I really almost forgot that Kalki is a normal human being in real life and not the specially abled person from her reel life. Unbelievably brilliant performance - words might not do justice. Every movement, every moment, one can submerge into Kalki's world. Relate with her, sympathize with her, even empathize with her despite not being a disabled person, because after all, all her emotions/ desires/ wishes were exactly the same as all of us, at that age, at any age actually.

All Kalki wanted was to be in love, feel loved, to be able to love - without a judgment. Her desire to be seen as desirous, her wish of being wished for by her muse, to look good, to appear smart and be with it - any teenager's regular life (for that matter even a 30+'s regular life - sigh). And I thought that was the point of the film - and I said to myself, what a lovely theme. And what a unique way to portray a teenager's journey through a specially abled person's lens.

But soon it started to dissolve - into ONE BIG amalgamation of disability. And slow slow slow transition into point-less-ness. For me, movies are either for entertainment (our good ol' Bollywood masala movies) or for conveying a point of view or for both. I wasn't sure what the point was in this movie because really, it wasn't a masala film made for entertainment. It must have been made to convey a point, some point but like the Indian cricket team playing a test match, it started off well but soon started losing wicket after wicket and oh so S-L-O-W-L-Y!

First things first, does a disabled person's life HAVE to be surrounded with more disabled people? The boy she flirted with, the lover, even the mother - why did there have to be so much suffering - to what avail? Her own disability and her way of coping with it would have been a wonderful story but in this film, it was like disability begets disability!

If the movie was about a young girl's journey of desire and self discovery, and if the point of the film was that love/ lust/ whatever has no boundaries, why did we need a blind girl to prove that? And even if a blind girl was needed to sizzle up the screen with Kalki, what happened to trying to create that magical chemistry between the two to make it look believable, even fantastical beyond all conventional mindsets? Fire comes to mind here and boy, was there fire on the screen each time shabana and nandita das came together! Missing here unfortunately.

Talking of chemistry, was the turning point of sorts about a completely abled man being able to "see" her and want her as he put on her panties for exactly one round of orgasm? Or maybe the crux was that cheating in this case is understandable because the protagonist was confused about her orientation. Like all other forms of cheating with abled heterosexual people happen as a result of real clear heads and hence not justified. Am I missing something here? Because the preen with which the film ended was almost like an order to the audience to better LIKE Kalki and all her choices.

Of course we as audience loved Kalki. If anything, the movie is about Kalki. All performances of course are extremely noteworthy, great screen play, fantastic direction. But still, its an over complicated milieu of emotions, notions, nuances and situations.

The girl friend's disclosure to her parents about her sexual orientation at the age of 14 and the after effects that followed, Kalki being rejected by her boy-'friend' because, come on, who wants a girlfriend with Cerebral Palsy, the mother quietly suffering with cancer and the father crying alone in bed, the cute boy getting attracted to Kalki despite her disability (honestly men can get turned on by anyone, anytime and we don't need such a complex plot to remind us of that) - SO many things happening in the movie was literally like a whirlwind of shocking disclosures, seeped in extreme moroseness of wheelchairs, white canes for the blind, hair wigs and more, which to my mind, took away from the simplicity this film could have had.

Especially the part where the daughter is giving her mother a bath - what was that? Someone with cerebral palsy gives bath to other adults? That's the only time I got up from my seat and rubbed my eyes to make sense of all that was happening. Maybe that was the idea. Like the ploy of comic relief during Shakespeare's time, maybe the movie reached a point where it needed mindless-ness relief after all the dragging.

I know I am being harsh. The movie did have its memorable moments - a lot of them. Some fun humor, some very real portrayal of a typical Indian middle class family, some real moments of discovery, treatment of a sensitive issue of lust and sexual desire - all these made Margharita with a Straw almost a likeable movie. And it actually can be, except that I wish the story writer and the director had let it remain simple. Simplicity is really underrated in our times. And I wish the makers hadn't gotten so bored of the film themselves to end it so abruptly, though if I were in their shoes, I too would have lost the plot and not known what the right ending could possibly have been.

Saturday, April 25, 2015

Crushing Times

So, in the recent past, 'state of mental being' has caught the fancy of all of us. And why not. When someone as fanci-full as Miss Padukone brings such a topic to fore, it is bound to get everyone's attention. Suddenly, across all quarters, one hears of Depression being the taboo phenomena that people are now beginning to come out of their closets of. Strange though, that the homosexual closet opened much earlier than this one. I guess matters of the head are far more complex than the matters of the heart.

Talking of which, yet another matter of the heart taken somewhat lightly is the state of having a crush on someone. Especially when its someone unattainable. Your boss, a married woman, your watchman, that dog, or just someone who is simply not interested in you. But a crush is a crush is a crush; so what does one do when this (literally) mental state hits and claims an innocent victim?

We just gush and say "awww its just a crush". But is it really that simple? At 34, I must confess I still often fall victim to this horrendous phenomena, yes horrendous it is, just like it used to be even when I was 16. And that's the thing about a crush - it really lives up to 'Age No Bar, object-of-affection no bar'. WTF! It's sometimes almost ridiculous when you look back and think of the various people you have crushed on (if that's even a word). And yet, when its the crush phase, its a really crushing phase.

As I was going through my recent innocent c-rush-hour, it got me thinking though - isn't having a crush same as going through mental illness? I mean beyond the romanticism and cuteness of it, in a very real sense, its yet another state of being that can consume you, shake you up, completely own you, even destroy you. Albeit for that short while only, which is the saving grace because its a crush only if its like a limited period offer. The thin line can easily transform itself into obsession whichis then a clearance sale and not everyone enjoys a wear-and-tear clearance sale.

In fact the more I think about it, I realize actually just how dangerous it can be. Not only is it an animal with no leash, its also like that virus that can keep relapsing. Damn.

The causes may vary but the symptoms are always the same.
- You worry about how you are looking all the time. You try to be at your best every morning, excited about what you and the day will turn out to be. And yet, the morning turns into the afternoon into the evening and you return back dejected because your object of crush didn't even spend that cursory glance at you. Alas!

- You find silly reasons to meet THE ONE. Any excuse and you find yourself in the Chakravyuh that you yourself decided to get into but once there, you are stuck. Stuck with awkwardness, with hitting yourself  on  the head about the embarrassment of having been so enthu for nothing.

- You gush, you blush, you rush - all of it, all at once. And can you imagine what a fool you must appear to be. Each time. Time after time. Oh dear lord!

- You usually start with trying to appear calm and composed about your crush. You usually begin with roses looking redder, winds blowing sweeter and the universe being your best bud. Im sure this state is what led to the adage "Calm before the storm". Soon you start losing balance, in your head. Conversations with self, desperate desire to be wanted as much as you want him/ her, restless hours - Bah!

As I write this, I realize that while I have crushed on various people and gone through the above symptoms, few have crushed on me too and their state must be exactly the same as mine and yet while being on the other end, I too have ruthlessly ignored the crusher while being the crushee.

Either way, having crushes is great - it makes you love LOVE for sometime but beyond that, I think it needs a serious cure. For all the medical advancement, the few things that still have no cure really is Cancer, AIDs and Crushes. How very morbid of me to allude to an innocent crush in the same bracket as these deadly diseases but ask someone who is going through it - the sweet little crush feels almost fatal!

Of course Im no Deepika Padukone to get this highly sensitive issue into the collective conscience of the nation but if anyone finds a cure for this, do remember to share it with.




 

Sunday, April 12, 2015

Random musings. Coz there's no muse.

3 years and I return
To this blog. To do a re-run
Of sharing my thoughts, pouring my mind
To make something of it this time.

The mind however pleads guilty of being empty
So to come up with a topic, I count from 1 to 20
Zero, Zilch, Nada is where Im stuck
The blog,  my life, this road with no truck

Reminds me of Cape Town,  the beautiful little city
Mountains, dolphins, clouds and people oh so pretty.
One would want to live a lifetime there
And yet be out of the skin in every sphere

Getting back to the topic of topic
Everything begins with something microscopic
A context to everything is what I need
Whether its a power point presentation or my life at any speed

I ask out again to the 'Topic Gods' at large
With the concept of reel life, is my real life a farce?
How is it that I always come up with things at work
But never hit the real G spot, not even as a quirk!

Colors. Fonts. Template. Of a presentation
Fascinate me to ensure I reach the destination
But Love. Lust. Purpose. Of life
Escape me in a strife

Decisions. Precisions. I need to own up
Get a hold of things around me, bring to brim my cup
Knowledge of this is the first step they say
And yet despite having it all, all the time I sway

But I laugh, throw my head back with a twinkle in my eye
Why so serious. This too shall pass, pass around like the pie