What an inspiring message. Exactly the kind that we would forward to our friends on Whatsapp, make this our DP, send it out as a New Year Wish, and for a short while believe that this is exactly how life must be lived.
But can we dare to live this way? And love this way?
Are we ready to break the rules in love? And once we do, are we ready to forgive? When we cheat on our partners, can we stop regretting esp since the adultery made us more than just smile?
The answer is no. But the question is why not?
Monogamy has been that elevated phenomena in our society which is as sacred as it is fearful - and for good reasons. It is after all the proof of holy matrimony, of the marriage vows that a couple makes to each other. Monogamy is that invisible thread that keeps each marriage a happily-ever-after affair. It is the recurring deposit that reminds a couple that each is loved by their spouse.
Except that, its not.
Breaking the code of monogamy is as old as the conduct of marriage. Monogamy was never a choice.
Think about it. History is filled with pages of adultery. Every geography, every race, every era has shunned from the mention of infidelity and yet indulged in it abundantly, unabashedly, joyfully.
I have often wondered why is the rule of monogamy the most coveted one and yet the most broken one? And my own sense is this - human beings are driven by excitement. Excitement is that only potion that can keep us going on and on and on all the time. Some people find this excitement in music, some in art, some in bungee jumping and some in mountaineering. But most find it in attraction to the opposite sex - after all its the most basic of the ways of nature.
To be able to feel that rush of blood again, to want to dress up for someone again, to flirt again, to feel the tingly feeling again, to have electricity go down your spine again and to gush again and again - how can this not be the most exciting experience ever?
Earlier, some people allowed themselves to be swept away by this sense of excitement and pay for the repercussions of it too - good or bad depended on their karma I suppose. What is really mind boggling about today's day and age is that this phenomena has not only become wide spread but also fairly open. Infidelity is not a privilege of a few anymore, and certainly not just of men for sure. Its almost amazing. How men today proposition women to a "good time" while ensuring the woman understands that this is only physical; emotions are securely locked up for the wives. Likewise its interesting how women are willing to play second fiddles most times for a few moments of adventure. No judgment here by the way.
I only wonder why then cant infidelity just become an accepted open part of our society? I mean not like there should be an open license to f*** but is it possible for couples to know that there will be one-night-stands but the vows taken of emotional security, togetherness et all would solely and always be theirs and theirs alone? Can such a world exist, and exist happily? I don't know. I will never know I suppose. This is just a fallacy, exactly like how Happily Ever After is.
